Friday, February 28, 2014


Sent to me by a friend who recently had a miscarriage, I thought this post worth sharing. While infertility and adoption are big words on my blog, miscarriage isn't, simply because I haven't had one, in the technical sense, and I don't preach on what I don't know.

But I thought this article was outstanding in encouraging people who believe life does begin at conception, to truly rally around a woman who has lost a real, had a beating heart, baby. I've had many friends lose babies, and because I have dealt with infertility, I've learned what is good to say and what isn't. 

When it comes to miscarriage, here's what you should say. 

"That stinks."

Because it truly does. Instead of trying to open our mouths and make "encouraging" statements that are only hurtful and not helpful, let's just tell them we wish this hadn't happened. They don't need to get over it in a certain amount of time. They don't need to be told that they shouldn't name the child or count them amongst the children they have. 

Here's a link to the article:  Why miscarriage matters when you're pro-life.

Friday, February 21, 2014

"This Isn't Supposed to Happen"

Coping with the loss of a baby
By Kristin Blackwell

Beth and Jim longed for a baby, and after several months of trying to conceive, they were blessed with the news that Beth was pregnant. A few short weeks after learning the blissful news, they were the told the pregnancy was not progressing and that Beth would miscarry. Beth and Jim felt emotionally broadsided. Up until that point, the pregnancy had been going well.

How could this be? they wondered.

Click the link above to read more.

A Marriage Surrival Kit

The right tools can make all the difference
By: John and Sylvia Van Regenmorter

Many couples who experience infertility discover that their marriage is on a survival mission -- and it's not just an exercise! How can you and your spouse preserve your relationship -- and even improve it -- during this difficult time?

Click the link above to read some great tips on surviving the difficult road of infertility.

Share Each Other's Burdens

Clear here to read a great article by Kristin Meyer discussing secondary infertility.